Even as we were rejoicing the confirmation of the death penalty for Nirbhayata’s rapists, another horrific rape filled the timelines. This time it was from Rohtak, Haryana where a man and his cronies abducted, raped, mutilated and killed a girl who had refused to marry him.
That this came so close on the heels of the Supreme Court verdict, lends fuel to the belief that even death penalty is not enough to deter these monsters in India.
Why is it that Indian men don’t take into account “consent” of a woman? Why is the “No means No” fall on deaf ears? Men here take it as a challenge rather than a deterrent. But why?
I blame Hindi cinema’s pedantic fare selling of Love in the cliché’ ridden plots of hero chasing a girl, literally to death while everyone and their uncle whistling their appreciation of the feat. The mindless portrayal of a boy falling in love and then plotting to get his woman to say yes makes me grit my teeth in exasperation.
Okay so the 80s and 90s were “backward” and the film makers were not so “on-it” and this Love formula was beaten to death there.
Whats the excuse today when we are self-proclaimed intelligentsia not to mention social media pros?
We are in 2017 where in every movie celeb her worth is on Social media with their own PR cells managing these accounts, opinions of every sort are solicited from them on every thing and they seem to be breaking barriers by stepping into the hallowed lands of Hollywood too with great verve and walking the red carpets seem to be such a breeze for them.
Then why do we see these seemingly intelligent well spoken and articulate elite set still sticking to the sickening script of No does not mean No????
Take the case of Badri Ki Dulhania! A commoner (read tier 2 city resident) falls for a girl from a similar social background who is more interested in making a career than a marriage. Undeterred the hero chases her with mindless lines like “Why doesn’t she get it that I love her? I want to marry her and not make her my GF – doesn’t this prove how serious I am about her?”
Seriously dude!! What century are you plugging this fare in?
All was well till the girl ends up falling for him and saying …. what else – I love you too!!!
Varun Dhawan and Alia Bhatt are touted to be two of the promising stars of this generation – not so much in my opinion if this is what they like to sell vis-a-vis their talent. Does this generation possess a brain?
Have this duo considered who sees this type of movies? Are they aware of the incidents women seem to be facing on a daily basis in app-based cabs where the drivers are not in the least bit scared to misbehave on these lines with women passengers? Or the rapes and acid attacks that seem to be on the rise?
Dhawan does own the sobriquet of being the son of a man who made the sickening filthy movie wherein the hero’s sidekick gyrate his pelvic region obscenely to an equally lewd tune which leaves nothing to imagination. Much of that movie had similar nuances and to sum it aptly was a huge trashy affair. So maybe I shouldnt be too harsh on him, despite his amazing portrayal of a broken man seeking revenge for his world going under in Badlapur.
Take the case of Arjun Kapoor and the trailers of Half Girlfriend where he is mouthing off dialogues to appease the object of his affection who is least interested in him and has turned around on several occasions to say so clearly to him. But does he listen? Oh no! It only spurs him on to become obsessive to the point wherein he vows to make her understand his love by hook or crook.
Dude if a woman is saying not interested; no matter how much you love her, please step back and let her be. It’s not a challenge to be taken head-on without a thought.
And this is Arjun Kapoor- another GEN XX actor but it seems no brains here as well.
What should I say to Chetan Bhagat for this mind numbing affair that he has dished out to appease his readers? Again, does he know his audience and what he is putting out there for them to savour? BTW this man’s books have been included in our education programmes!! Wonderful!
Read a review on this movie which sums this crap up very succinctly here
Offscreen, these very personalities scream themselves hoarse to assert rights, independence, respect to women, blah, blah blah…… But onscreen is a matter of commercial success and so they will mouth any vapid dialogue, gyrate to obscenity and play the victim to the hilt – no questions asked!!!
All of these so-called intellectuals are working overtime to feed the Indian mentality with the thought that its okay to stalk and obsess a woman if you think you are in love with her. Never mind what the woman says, since her consent is taken for granted or rather not at all.
I wish ill from the bottom of my heart to these newbies (and others) over their commercial successes via such ridiculous and mind numbing plots which seem to be inspiring a certain sect of the society to ill-treat women in the name of love!
I yearn to see a death penalty for every rapist, child molester, sodomists and for that very reason I have signed up this petition on Change.org and you can too if you feel strongly about it.
I am linking this post up with Corinne’s #MondayMusings
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